Doing The Unthinkable: How You Can Survive Without Technology

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What is the first thought that comes to your mind when you think about forgetting your cell phone? Do you start to panic? Do your palms get sweaty? Do you think of all the things you will miss out on if you’re without this lifeline for 15, 20, even 2 hours?

photo credit: slightly everything (creative commons)

photo credit: slightly everything (creative commons)

I get it. We live in an age where we have to be connected to everyone, everywhere, all the time. Or so we think.

What if we actually gave ourselves permission to disconnect?

The other day I had plans to meet a friend for dinner and a movie. Since we were meeting at Panera for dinner, I decide to go a couple of hours earlier to have a change of scenery and finish up some work.

As I reached for my bag I realized I had forgotten my cell phone. I could feel a slight panic coming on and my thoughts started to race, going something like this:

I must have my phone. What if someone calls? What if my mom needs something? I won’t be able to check my email during the movie. I can’t check in on Foursquare and let others know I’m at Panera. I have to go home and get it. I need it.

Then I took a deep breath, closed the car door and kept walking towards the entrance. I gave myself permission to go without it. I had survived 18 years without a cell phone. I could survive 5 hours.

As I sat down and the reality hit me that my communication with the world would be “cut off” for the next five hours, I actually felt relieved. I was actually excited. For the next several hours, the only way people could talk to me was face to face.

What does that little silent fit in the parking lot tell me about where we’re at in this age?

We really need to disconnect so that we can reconnect. (Tweet that)

Disconnecting Allows Us To be Present

I sat over dinner with my friend and had a deep, meaningful conversation. I was fully present in the conversation, not looking over to see who just posted on Facebook, who replied to my tweet, or what the latest news on the Chicago Cubs was. (Yes, I’m a Cubs fan. Please send hate mail to the St. Lois Cardinals Headquarters.)

Eye contact was better. Engagement was more powerful. There were no interruptions. Just two people having a conversation, the way it used to be.

You Have Permission To Not Be Everywhere

You’re only one person. Though there are certainly benefits to the increasing technology we have, there are disadvantages as well. People expect you to be everywhere, all the time.

Sometimes this means calling you again, if you didn’t answer the first time. Other times it’s leaving a text after the voicemail that says to call.

We live in an age of urgency and it’s ruining our lives. (Tweet that too)

Who says we have to be in a hurry? Where is the rule book that tells us we have to be everywhere?

Tell your boss it’s Saturday and you’re not answering emails or texts. Tell your friends you’ll call them back when you get time. Tell people if they want you to call them back, then leave a voice message and you’ll make it happen.

We’re Not As Important As We Think We Are 

When I got home, of course I went straight to my phone. I wanted to know what I had missed.

Four text messages and a Facebook message were displayed on the screen. That was it. Nothing urgent. Nothing that called for my immediate attention. No one needed my advice. Nothing that was important enough for me to drive back home and get the phone I thought I couldn’t live without.

My family was still in tact. My business hadn’t folded in a matter of hours. I still had the same friends I did before.

I didn’t miss a thing.

Actually, I gained. I got the perspective that I need to realign my priorities. I need to be more present in all of my relationships. If I’m going to keep living fully alive, some things need to change. I need to remember that I lived without technology once and I can certainly do it again.

What about you? Is it hard for you to be present? Can you stand the thought of going without your phone? Leave a comment below…

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  • http://www.facebook.com/josette60 Josette Collins

    hahahahaha you didn’t grow up in the 60’s we didn’t have cell phones dvd’s or face book, laptop , ect! we had land line phone and pay phones! oh my good ness , we had FREEDOM, no one could track us ! Our mom and dad had to GO LOOK FOR US ! we ran the streets literally! We really hung out with ALL the people! Yes it was a little more dangerous , then today, Why? because there was no cell, no face book . no nothing, and we didn’t tell on each other by texting! we learned to keep our mouth shut! now Q for all who’s reading this….. Would Capone gotten away with all he did if he was around today? 2nd Q what about Son of Sam? Jack the ripper? On the flip side sometimes it is good to have your cell , in case your in a real jam , and CAN’T GET HOME! depends on how you look at the WHOLE picture of life TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,PEACE Georgette

  • http://www.positivewriter.com/ Bryan Hutchinson

    Mindfulness matters. Indeed. Hey, you missed a facebook alert. That’s imortant :)
    Just kidding. I enjoyed your perspective as usual.

    • http://www.sundijo.com Sundi Jo Graham

      Ha. Thanks for the humor.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Kristin-Leigh-Hanley/526156728 Kristin Leigh Hanley

    When Aaron and I got rid of our cells a few years back, it was so liberating for me! I didn’t want to be available to everyone at every minute and having only a landline gave me that freedom. It’s so true what you say; we have to disconnect to really connect with people on a heart-to-heart level. So much of that has been lost.

    • http://www.sundijo.com Sundi Jo Graham

      Wow Kristin – that’s brave.

  • http://twitter.com/bluenotebacker Sean Jeffries

    I was one of the first of my friends to have a mobile phone, in high school. WHY?? No one else had one, who was I calling?? I really like the advice here and the thought of being more engaged with the person I’m talking with face to face. Thanks for sharing!

    • http://www.sundijo.com Sundi Jo Graham

      Thanks for stopping by Sean. I appreciate it.

  • http://www.facebook.com/vironika.tugaleva Vironika Tugaleva

    This is just lovely. I’ve lived most of my life without a cell phone. It’s forced people to write me letters, come to my door, and resort to other such methods to contact me. It’s made the contact more worthwhile too because people really, really miss you when they know you’re not “easily accessible”. I feel like we can think that there’s always time to contact someone forever… until we can’t. Technology is taking that to the next level.
    Thank you for writing this.