#coffeewithsj episode episode 6 – the wounds of a friend

Do you have a friend who is willing to call you up when you’re not living the life God has designed for you?

Are you that friend to someone else?

Proverbs 27:6 says, “Wounds from sincere friends are better than many kisses from an enemy.”

Confrontation isn’t comfortable, but we’re called to be brave. To confront. To love.

3 Ways to Face Confrontation with Courage

Why You Have to Speak Up

Others are often surprised to learn I’m not a fan of confrontation. Because I serve in different areas of leadership, it comes with an automatic assumption that calling people out, holding others accountable, and dealing with confrontation comes easy for me.

3 Ways to Face Confrontation with Courage

I can promise you that it doesn’t.

Confrontation is never easy for me, but I know it’s necessary. It’s necessary in all of our lives. Yours, mine, and the guy next door.

There usually isn’t a day that goes by I don’t have to muster up the courage to confront an issue, whether that’s talking through a hard topic with our Freedom Finders at Esther’s House, talking through something with a friend, etc.

Confronting hard situations takes courage. 

#coffeewithsj Episode 4: Calling People Up Instead of Out

You can’t have healthy friendships without accountability. But what if holding others accountable looks different than what we think it does?
Join us for #coffeewithsj Episode 4: Calling People Up Instead of Out
And we have some other exciting announcements, including Dutch Apple Praline pie.
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#coffeewithsj Episode 3: That Time I Got Drunk

 When I was 14 years old I got behind the wheel of a car drunk and high. It’s by the grace of God I lived to tell about it. I’d love to say I learned my lesson, but I didn’t.
Recently there was a horrible car accident in my hometown and alcohol was involved. Since then there have been so many opinions and comments on Facebook that have both hurt my heart and made my blood boil. Judgment, opinions, gossip, and more judgment.
Henry Cloud says, “Truth without grace is judgment.” What kind of grace are we sharing in speaking truth?
Are we casting stones we have no right to cast? I’m talking about that today…


#coffeewithsj Episode 2 – Stuffy Stufferson

Are you struggling to deal with your emotions? It’s easy to find an unhealthy coping mechanism instead of of dealing with our junk, but we’ll always regret it later.
I recently found myself using food to avoiding dealing with my junk, but the Holy Spirit stepped in through a friend and offered me grace.
What are you trying to avoid that God is trying to deal with in your heart?

5 Question to Ask Yourself Before Posting on Facebook

How to Use Facebook the Right Way

How many times has your mouth gotten you into trouble? Or perhaps you’ve been deeply hurt by the words of others. I’ve been on both sides, unfortunately.

I remember when Facebook used to be fun. I could scroll through and see pictures of families I wanted to keep in touch with, connect with new online friends who shared the same interests, and enjoy kitten memes.

Now it seems my feed is full of online wars between one another versus actually dealing with the problem. We use it as a passive aggressive way of getting our point across to a specific person without saying name. We gossip. We slander. And we do it all behind a protective screen, convincing ourselves if we do it this way, it won’t really hurt anyone.

Join us for the first episode of Coffee with SJ

I am SO excited to share with you something I’m finally getting the courage up enough to do.

This coming Wednesday, April 26th at 7:00 am CST, I’m launching my very first LIVE episode of “coffee with sj.” 

Coffee with SJ

Each week I’ll be hanging out with you – real, raw, live. Prepare for some crazy hair, pajamas, and of course, coffee. I’ll be talking faith, life application, health, answering your questions, and more.

The show will be happening live every Wednesday at 7:00 am CST on my Facebook page. 

Feel free to share some specific topics you’d love to chat about, and comment with any questions you have.

I’m so excited to start our Wednesday mornings together!

If you haven’t liked my Facebook page yet, you can do so right here… 

An Open Letter to Abusers

Revealing the Truth About Who You Really Are

There’s this thing about me – sometimes it’s good and other times it can get me into trouble. I hate injustice. I hate watching innocent people be wronged, hurt, betrayed, beaten down. It turns out God hates those things, too. 

An Open Letter to Abusers

Sometimes it’s hard for me not to take justice into my own hands when I see those I love being hurt. There are times I fight back through the power of prayer, and other times, unfortunately, I try to take justice into my own hands. The outcome is usually better if I allow God to fight the battle.