The Myth Behind “Once an Addict Always an Addict”

On a Friday night in my little hometown of Belle (population 1500), you’ll see several cars sitting in the parking lot of the First Christian Church.  If you show up around 6:30 there will be a hot dinner, followed by some great worship, fellowship, and deep conversations.


Every person who walks through the doors on Friday night struggles with some kind of life-controlling issue, whether it’s addiction, depression, anxiety, co-dependency, people pleasing, etc. But in the midst of our struggles, we all Celebrate Recovery together.

Once an addict, always an addict. 

In some recovery programs you’re taught “Once an addict, always an addict.” What if that’s not true?

A Letter to Sexual Abuse Survivors

Hi, I’m Sundi Jo and I’m a survivor of sexual abuse, too.

A Letter to Sexual Abuse Survivors

I start this letter with an apology. I’m sorry. Sorry sexual abuse is a part of your story. Devastated it was written into the book of your life. I’m sorry someone stole innocence from you without your control. What happened to you isn’t fair.

I want you to read these words carefully. Hear them. Believe them.

What happened to you is not your fault. 

Same Sex Marriage and the Old Dirty Cup

Official as of today, the Supreme Court ruled same-sex couples have the right to marry nationwide.

Same Sex Marriage and the Coffee Cup

As of today, my Facebook and Twitter feeds have blown up from both Christians and non-Christians sharing their thoughts and opinions on the matter.

I don’t really need to write about it, because a million other blogs are already discussing it, but I do have something to say, so I’ll make it short and sweet. 

5 Biblical Principles to Set You Free from Oppression

Are you dealing with the same struggle over and over again, feeling stuck in your desperation?

5 Biblical Principles to Set You Free from Oppression

Perhaps you just keep going back to that addiction. You stay sober for a week, then have a drink on a lonely Saturday night. You’ve been on track with your eating habits, then one bad day sends you into a spiral of emotional eating.

My friend, that’s called bondage. It’s very real. 

A letter to Bruce and Caitlyn Jenner

Dear Bruce (Caitlyn),

A letter to Bruce & Caitlyn Jenner

First of all, I want to thank you for your bravery for being so vulnerable with the photographers at Vanity Fair. I can’t speak for you, but that probably wasn’t the easiest thing to do. Thank you, also, for your willingness to talk to Diane Sawyer about your struggles so openly. Again, probably not that easy.

I don’t write this letter to condemn or judge you. As a matter of fact, I would like to apologize on behalf of any Christian who berates you with their words and judges you with their looks. Please remember, not all Christians are alike.

Can I share my heart with you for a moment?

Mind Praying for Me?

I’ve had a lot on my heart and mind these last few days. More like the last couple weeks, actually. Would you mind praying for me?

Mind Praying for Me?

None of it’s bad. It’s all good. Even when it’s good though, sometimes it’s still really hard. 

I think the reality is setting in that I’m living back in my hometown. It’s not a bad reality, it just is what it is. I’m here. For real. For the long haul.

Yesterday I had a mini meltdown. I missed my friend, Jammie. I missed our Tuesday nights, where we drank coffee or went to a movie, or laughed about absolutely nothing. I missed my other friends. I missed Branson. I missed comfort.

Why Some Secrets Should Be Taken to the Grave

I come from a family of secrets, just as most others do. Perhaps a few of those secrets should be taken to the grave.

Why Some Secrets Should Be Taken to the Grave

“You don’t talk about being sexually abused. You don’t talk about your addictions. Some things are just better left unsaid.”

Have you ever heard these words? Maybe you’ve said them yourself.

Homosexuality and Sexual Abuse: Are They Related?

Someone asked me this question the other day: “Do you think there’s a connection between homosexuality and sexual abuse?

Homosexuality and Sexual Abuse: Are They Related?

I don’t want to answer it. Why? Because I know regardless of what my answer is, someone, somewhere won’t agree with my answer, and then I’ll be labeled as a hypocrite, religious jerk, etc. etc. etc.

I’ve avoided publishing topics on homosexuality for this very reason. Because somehow, some way, despite being careful with my words, someone will get hurt, me included. But it’s time…

Yes. Yes, I think they’re related. Definitely not in all cases, but I would bet the majority. I’m not a scientist. I’m not a psychologist. I have no initials behind my name to qualify me to answer, but I have my own experience.

Why Do People Commit Suicide?

When someone takes their own life, those closest to them immediately ask, “What could I have done differently? What if I did this? What if I called her more? What if I visited him more?”

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There’s an immense guilt survivors feel and it takes a while to get through that grief. Then comes the anger. “Why would she do something so stupid? Why didn’t he bother to think about us before he decided to take the easy way out?” Insert your own question here.

Ashley Judd, Rambo, and the Stitch

I’m angry. Angry that while I type this blog post, women in Africa, India, the Congo, and all over the rest of the world and United States, are being kidnapped, raped, beaten, tortured, and humiliated to think they deserve to be where they are.

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I’m angry I didn’t sleep well last night because all I could think about was storming into a brothel in Kenya, Rambo style, and taking out the men committing these grotesque, shaming, hideous crimes with a smirk on their faces. I’m angry I slept in my queen size bed, snuggled up with my four pillows, while little orphans in Phnom Penh are lucky to sleep on a piece of cardboard.

I’m angry Ashley Judd’s childhood was stolen from her and I just want to hug her and say, “I know. I’m sorry.”