There’s one word I truly hate – DIETING. It’s bad for you health. It’s annoying for your emotional well-being. I could keep going. I really, really hate it.
I’m encouraging you to make it a goal to completely eliminate the word “diet” from your vocabulary.
Remember when your mother used to tell you after you said something you weren’t supposed to, “I’ll wash your mouth out with soap?” Consider it a dirty word.
Hey, get your act together! You need to look good, feel good, and be good. Anything other than that is a disgrace.
Don’t you feel like the world tells us that sometimes? What if we really didn’t have to try so hard to please the rest of the world?
What if vulnerability became the new sexy? Not the skinny, airbrushed chicks on the cover of magazines, but the real, raw, everyday peeps who live their lives with struggles, disappointments, and victories?
If I had a quarter for every time I failed I’d probably own my own island somewhere off the coast of St Maarten, where I’d spend my days fishing, reading, and of course, listening to Dolly Parton. It hasn’t made me rich, but I’ve learned a lot from every failed experience.
The only way, in my opinion, to do failure right, is by walking away with a memorable experience you can learn from.
Jon Gordon, author of The Carpenter, says this about failure:
Failure often serves as a defining moment, a crossroads on the journey of your life. It gives you a test designed to measure your courage, perseverance, commitment, and dedication.
He couldn’t be more right.
Can you believe it’s been two months already? Time flies when you’re kicking butt, or losing your butt, whichever you prefer.
If you’re new here, I started using a personal trainer, Kim, two months ago and shared my month one results here.
Okay, let’s get started.
Halfway through month one, I heard these words, “You’re not eating enough calories.” I almost peed my pants. Actually, I think I made her say it one more time just to clarify. I moved from 1600 calories/day to 2,000, scared to death Kim was crazy, but trusting she knew what she was talking about. Never have I been told I wasn’t eating enough. What an exciting problem!
Today is Tuesday. Yesterday was Monday. Know what that means? That’s the day you were “going” to start that new diet. The day you were going to get to the gym. The day you were going to throw the Pringles out of the cupboard.
Though I haven’t done a survey to get the accurate numbers, based on my own experience, I would bet more than half of those who wait until Monday to start their diets or exercise plans are back into failure mode by Wednesday.
It’s hard truth, but hear me out.
Depending on which expert you ask, a habit can take anywhere from 21-45 days to put into action before it sticks. I’m not big on counting the number of days versus simply knowing the habit is remaining effective.
Allow me to introduce you to Bob, the toad. He shows up at my front door almost every evening and hangs out until the next morning. He’s been doing it for months. As I left the other morning to head to my personal training session, I took notice of Bob and realized something.
He is consistent in showing up. I’m learning I can count on looking out my front door when I let my dog Zeke out each night and Bob is almost always there, just chilling.There’s a lesson to be learned there, friends.
In July I promised you I was going to share my weight loss results since signing up with a personal trainer. I’m keeping my promise, even though it scares me to death to “pour it all out there.”
On August 1 Kim weighed me in and recorded my measurements and body fat. I never took my measurements at the beginning of my 145 lb. weight loss in 2008, but I do know I went from a size 30 to a size 16. Kim and I agreed I would only weigh in once per month so the scale wouldn’t be my focus. I must admit it’s been a bit hard, but I’ve managed.
Here’s where I started:
Reshaping it All (B&H Publishing Group, 2013)
It was great to read this book and learn that we all have struggles, whether we’re famous or not. Candace is very candid about her struggles with food and how she learns to balance a healthy lifestyle.
She includes spiritual inspiration, along with a recipe at the end of each chapter that I really enjoyed.
Great book. Easy to digest. Worth the read.
I don’t believe anyone wakes up and says, “I desire to be overweight and miserable for all the days of my life.”
I never did.
Sometimes, though, you just get in this rut. You know better, but you don’t differently, because you’ve been in the rut for so long.
Do you ever find yourself looking up and wondering how you got there?
There is hope.
Dr. Henry Cloud, a Christian Psychologist, wrote in his book, 9 Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life, about none other than the ant. A tiny insect that we rarely pay attention to.
He tells the story about purchasing an ant farm while in his doctorate program. After staring at the ants for a while, nothing was happening. He felt his time and money were both wasted on this stupid ant farm, so he was going to throw it away.
A friend suggested he wait until he returned from vacation to throw it away. Just give the ant farm one more chance. He agreed.
When he returned from vacation, he was amazed at what he had found. The ants had practically built their own city!
But they didn’t do it overnight. Instead, they built their home one grain of sand at a time. Tedious, time consuming work turned into a beautiful fortress behind the glass.