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George Mueller – A Man of Many Prayers

In Kay Arthur’s Lord Teach Me to Pray, she discusses several times throughout the study a man named George Mueller. I’m a fan of history, so I George Muellerdecided to look his name up. He’s definitely a man worth reading about. In 1836 Mueller and his wife started an orphanage. By the end of Meuller’s life he raised over 10,000 orphans. As if that’s not enough to be impressed with, it’s how he provided for those orphans that amazed me.

His requests for food, supplies, or money didn’t reach people. He didn’t ask anyone for anything. He simply went to God. He didn’t ask the the local lumberyard for building supplies. He didn’t ask the banker for a donation. He gave his requests to God, and ALL his needs were fulfilled. Many times he would receive food for the children only hours before they were to be fed. The children were dressed and well educated. No child left the orphanage without a Bible in hand.

This man may have lived centuries ago, but I believe we can all still learn from him. He applied biblical principals in all of his decision making. And he gave his requests to God before asking of others.

Does this mean we’re not to ask others for anything? I don’t necessarily think so. I believe God will put that on our hearts individually. I believe God wants us to seek Him and His will before we ask others. I believe that’s a must.

Here are Mueller’s principles:

  1. I seek at the beginning to get my heart into such a state that it has no will of its own in regard to a given matter. Nine-tenths of the difficulties are overcome when our hearts are ready to do the Lord’s will, whatever it may be. When one is truly in this state, it is usually but a little way to the knowledge of what His will is.
  2. Having done this, I do not leave the result to feeling or simple impression. If so, I make myself liable to great delusions.
  3. I seek the will of the Spirit of God through, or in connection with, the Word of God. The Spirit and the Word must be combined. If I look to the Spirit alone without the Word, I lay myself open to great delusions also.
  4. Next I take into account providential circumstances. These plainly indicate God’s will in connection with His Word and Spirit.
  5. I ask God in prayer to reveal His will to me aright.
  6. Thus through prayer to God, the study of the Word and reflection, I come to a deliberate judgment according to the best of my ability and knowledge, and if my mind is thus at peace, and continues after two or three petitions, I proceed accordingly. In trivial matters and transactions involving most important issues, I have found this method always effective.

Remember that God is faithful still and hears prayers still. Sincerely and patiently seek to know the will of God by the teaching of the Word of God, and you will ALWAYS be directed rightly.

Giving Him Your Warmest Smile

I woke up this morning determined to spend time with Jesus. I’m sorry to say that it has been far too long since I have opened my Bible and spent time in God’s Word. These past few days have been a struggle for me. I didn’t keep my focus on Him, and because of that I made poor choices. Yesterday I walked around with guilt, anger, and shame for the things I allowed myself to do. I cried out to God many times. Why did I have to wait for something to go wrong to cry out to God? Because I’m human.

radianceToday is a new day, and today God’s mercy is new. It’s so easy to forget that, and so hard to let go of the guilt and shame we feel. This morning as I was reading the Bible, I found my way to Psalm 34:5. It says Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame. The Message tells it this way, Look at him; give him your warmest smile. Never hide your feelings from him.

Yesterday I wasn’t able to smile at him; I wasn’t able to smile at anyone. I wasn’t able to accept his forgiveness. Today is a new day. Today I will give him my warmest smile. Hiding my feelings has always been easy for me. The things I endured in my childhood have made me a great secret keeper. I’m slowly learning how to reveal those secrets without fear of shame or condemnation. I must choose to reveal my feelings to Him – He knows them anyway.

Do you want to be radiant? Do you want your face to shine like a glowing light? Focus your eyes on Jesus. For when we do, our faces are never covered with shame.

What A Week

It’s only Thursday, but it’s been an incredible week! I was going through a box of pictures today that took me down memory lane; they weren’t necessarily all good memories either. I laughed, cried, and shook my head in disbelief at some of the images I was reminded of.

I flipped through pictures of my Senior high school trip – we thought we were invincible. I smiled at the poses and the thought of sneaking drinks into our room as underage risk takers. Then I was reminded of the irresponsible last night I spent on that trip. I don’t have memories of it; just friends that tell me about it. dad

I found pictures of my dad and grandpa. My dad had a beer in his hand and a cigarette in his mouth. I shed some tears, but soon reminded myself that he is with our Heavenly Father. He’ll never struggle with wanting a drink again. I miss him dearly, but I’m so grateful that he no longer suffers.

Pictures of my 21st birthday party reminded me once again how crazy I was. I had a drink in my hand and the language of a sailor. It wasboatn’t my proudest moment.

Then I ran across the inspiring pictures of our trip to Bayou La Batre, Alabama. There were lives changed in those pictures. Homeless people were fed, strangers came to know Jesus, and God continuously showed his grace in each shot. That was the beginning of the end of my old self.

My dear Caleb reminded me once again just how cute he is. Easter pictures, birthday parties, and carnivals had me grinning from ear to ear. If only I could have a few of those moments with him back to make sure he knew just how much I loved him.

I was sitting with a friend today talking about things of my past. As I looked in the mirror, I let my mind wander off to those days. I shook my head in shame, thinking of the person I used to be. My shame started to run away with me, until I felt God’s whisper on my heart. I no longer have to feel shame for the things of my past. Why? Because there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.

I look at myself today and the person I once was. Wow! What a transformation. This week I have focused on seeing God’s greatness in me, and I have definitely allowed myself to see it. I have woke up every day this week and repeated the words of Joyce Meyer, “Something good is going to happen to me today.” Something good has definitely happened.

  • Monday I learned of God’s greatness in me.
  • Tuesday I hit the scale to learn I’ve lost 71 pounds.
  • Wednesday I got an email from an interested employer who found me through my blog.
  • Thursday I interviewed with that employer and got the job.

I can’t wait to see what Friday brings. I have been set free from all the condemnation in my life. It seems like only yesterday when I lived for the world, but today I live for Jesus. Praise Him!

I have confessed my sins. I have been purified from ALL unrighteousness. I have been forgiven.

Thank you Jesus!

Indescribable Love

We had a great speaker in our Monday morning women’s Bible study, Callie Newton. The topic was seeing God’s greatness in ourselves. What perfect timing. This has been an issue I have struggled with for a while now. However, the discussion showed me just how far I have come in realizing the greatness in me. I’ve been able to see my greatness without feeling guilt or arrogance.

I met a woman in the group that is new to our church. I couldn’t remember her name for the life of me, but I knew there was something about her that I liked. We clicked. Later in the morning I found myself sharing intimate parts of my life with her. I told her about being broken before God in September, about the sister that God sent to be with me through my brokenness, about suffering sexual abuse, and about the death of my father.

When the conversation was over she thanked me for being so open with her. I had to stop and take a deep breath for a moment. I closed my eyes, scratched my head, and tried to replay in my head exactly what had just happened. I just told a complete stranger things I barely talk about with those closest to me. Then I realized the purpose of the whole conversation. I don’t know what she got out of it, but I know what I did.

My “pop” passed away in February, and it has been a strange four months. I have went through phases of refusing to admit he was gone, to crying crocodile tears, begging for him to come back. This past month I have decided not to talk about it at all. If I don’t talk about it, it never happened. I have refused to say the words died, passed away, and anything else referring to death. I woke up this morning with him on my mind – I’m missing him very much.

As I was sharing parts of my life over the last two years, I gave bits and pieces of the history with my dad. In August he was diagnosed with cancer. In September I had a nervous breakdown (or breakthrough as I like to call it), two days after we had an argument. I was unable to care for myself physically for several months. I struggled so much during that time, knowing I wasn’t there to take care of him. He was going through chemo and radiation by himself. I needed to be there to take care of him! God couldn’t do it by Himself, I had to help.

As I was talking I felt God’s comfort. I felt like a little girl sitting on his lap as he said, “Sweet child, I did take care of him. He was never alone.” jesus_childThose words were so comforting to me. I have lived with guilt for almost a year, thinking that I wasn’t there to care for my dad. As the guilt ran through my mind again, God reminded me that my dad needed broken too. As I went through my brokenness, so did he.

Most of you reading this know the rest of the story. But for those of you who don’t, I’ll share briefly. I sat by my dad’s side for three weeks in January as he approached his final days. I took care of him, prayed with him, read to him, and just loved him. But most importantly, I had the privilege of bringing him to Jesus. He passed away in February. I was the last person to talk to him, and the last words I ever heard from him were “I love you”. At his funeral five people came to know Jesus.

As I shared this story with my new friend, I could see the hallelujah in her eyes. It brought tears to my eyes and a big smile to my face. God reminded me again in his lovely, soothing voice that He had taken care of my dad. I smiled and nodded in agreement that he certainly had. In a way we were broken together.

Things I learned today:

  • I am recognizing God’s greatness in me.
  • God teaches me things in amazing ways.
  • I am comforted in knowing that my dad was never alone, even though he may have felt like it.
  • I don’t ever have to wonder if I will see my dad again – I know where he’s at, and that is great comfort.
  • I wouldn’t take back one moment, good or bad, that I have went through in the past ten months, because it’s now part of my greatness.

God, You are an amazing father. You know when to comfort me, when to humble me, when to break me, when to love me most. Through all of my stubbornness, pride, and selfishness, you still love me. I want to love like you love me. I want to walk like Jesus walked. Thank you for the walls you have broken down. Thank you for the comfort you have given me. Thank you for the days you wrap me in your arms and give me the most amazing, indescribable love. Tell Pop I love him!

Holding Onto Determination

As I was writing for my job seeking blog, I decided this would be a great story to share personally as well.

I’ve had some achievements in my life that are worth talking about. Here is one worth sharing:

My mother and I were in a head-on collision when I was ten. I fractured both of my femurs. When the ambulance crew arrived to the scene I was lying in the floorboard with my legs wrapped around my head like a pretzel – a great visual I know. The doctor told me that my injury was so severe I would never walk again. That was devastating news to a kid who loved climbing trees and lived in the water. I was determined the moment I heard the news to prove him wrong.

I had my legs in traction – that didn’t work. Then the doctor decided to stick six metal rods in each leg. I could have been in a Transformers movie for sure. To his surprise, my bones began to fuse back together. Then it was time for braces. I was determined to walk! After molding, shaping, and whatever else was involved in that process, I had some plastic braces suited just for me.

For the first time in months I stood up. I couldn’t hold myself up, but the braces were doing a great job. I was walking, or they were walking for me. I prefer to say I was doing the walking. My doctor began to have some optimism in his work, and in my determination to prove him wrong. We had a love/hate relationship. A couple more months of therapy and I would be ready to walk – that’s what everyone hoped for anyway.

I remember the day I sat in his office for a check-up. Out of nowhere he asked me to stand up. I remember looking at him like he was crazy. “Stand up.” So I did. For the first time in almost a year, I lifted myself out of the wheelchair and stood up. I was standing! My legs were like jello and it didn’t take long before I was back down. You couldn’t wipe the smile off my face. I wasn’t quite ready to be on my own yet, but the doctor told me I would be walking in no time. Those were some of the greatest words I’ve ever heard. Knowing I wasn’t yet ready, but seeing the excitement on my face, he allowed me to walk from the office to the car, if I promised not to try it again. I promised!

I stood up again, held onto the arms of my family, and took my first step. I walked! Each step to the door was an unbelievable experience. There weren’t many dry eyes in the place. It’s a moment I won’t soon forget.

As I said before, I have had many great accomplishments in my life, and I know there are many yet to come. But that will be marked in my book as one of the top. I have the tendency to be stubborn; out of that stubbornness comes determination. And when someone tells me something can’t be done, I use that as an opportunity to prove them wrong. If it’s God’s will, He makes it happen. And He made it happen!

Hold on to your determination. Don’t let someone tell you what you can and cannot do – it could make the difference in whether you sit or stand for the rest of your life.

The Noticer by Andy Andrews

the-noticer-book3Just call him Jones. It’s a name you’ll never forget. If you’ve had the chance to receive the perspective in your life that Jones dished out, then you are one lucky person. This book is full of everyday insights that you don’t realize go as deep as they do until you pick up this book.

What an amazing story! This book captured my attention on the first page. I felt as though I sat with each character, viewing life from their perspective. As they were changed, so was I. I was filled with encouragment and opportunities at the turn of each page.

My words barely begin to express the amazing story that Andy Andrews tells in this book. It will capture your heart, open your eyes, and challenge you to look at each day from a different perspective.

Taking A Compliment

When I finish writing this I’ll probably be asking why I allowed myself to be so vulnerable, but I’m writing it anyway. Over the past seven months I have been breaking free from many strongholds in my life. Thanks to God, Beth Moore, friends, and family, I have begun to transform myself. It’s been an amazing, yet extremely tough process. Yesterday I realized just how far I still had to go, but was thankful for how far I have already come.

Since I have started the process of getting my health back and losing weight, I have been very excited, yet scared to death. My weight loss has showed me just how insecure I’ve allowed myself to become.

Yesterday a friend called and asked me to meet her at the coffee shop. As much as I wanted to spend quality time with her, I was scared to death. I smiled and nodded on the phone, trying to think of an excuse not to go, as I kindly agreed I would meet her there. What’s so scary about that? Well, I knew she was going to compliment me. You’re probably thinking by now that I’m nuts. Everyone wants to be complimented!

For those of you that know me, I’ve always been a t-shirt and jeans type of girl. I love my ball cap and flip flops. I’ve been learning that those things aren’t really who I am; they’re just what I’ve allowed myself to become. Covering my head with a hat and throwing on a pair of jeans became a shield for me. I knew people wouldn’t compliment me on my hair, or tell me how nice I looked. It was a way to keep people away from me, for fear of being hurt by someone.

I walked into the coffee shop yesterday without a ball cap, without my flip flops, refusing to allow myself to make eye contact with her. I crossed my arms and sat back in the chair, hoping she wouldn’t even notice I was there. She noticed. She smiled and started to say something, and I blurted out as fast as I could “shut-up!” My insecurities were on overload and my defenses were locked, loaded and ready to fire.

Last night I realized what a goof I must have looked like. I apologized to her for my rudeness. She then challenged me to close my eyes and allow God to compliment me. I cried and allowed myself to blink. That’s closing my eyes right? Surely He can compliment me that fast. Then I took a deep breath and closed them. He complimented me indeed. This time I wasn’t afraid of being hurt. I smiled in knowing that God is enthralled by my beauty.

I’ve never had to worry about receiving compliments, because I’ve never allowed myself to break barriers. Now that I am succeeding in my weight loss, and breaking more barriers in my life, I realize that my walls are being broken down and I don’t have the control I once had. That’s scary. I tend to like control.

Now how do I allow myself to take compliments from people? One thank you at a time I suppose. How do I allow myself to believe that I am a beautiful creation in Christ? By reading His word and believing.

Here we go.

Get Real

I woke up this morning with a task list in my head of things I wanted to get done. I had been productive two days in a row, and was pumped to do it again. After reading some devotions, I posted on my Facebook status that I wanted to be real today. I have no idea where the thought came from; it popped into my head and so I posted it.

My friend instant messaged me later this morning, telling me to prepare myself because she had a few assignments for my heart. I have learned over the past six months that when she usually tells me something like that, I better listen. It seems when God is trying to talk to me, He tends to do it through her quite often.

She called me with the assignment that I was to bless someone today who had hurt me in the past. I had her repeat herself again just to confirm what I was hoping she hadn’t said. I was to bless someone who had mistreated me. Was she serious? Was God serious? I sat there for a moment, then I read Luke 6. I read it again, then went for a walk. I was determined to avoid this subject and focus on my task list for the day.

Halfway through the day I let her know I was avoiding the subject, and she kindly let me know that perhaps it wasn’t such a great idea to rebel against God. Perhaps she was right. I read Luke 6 again. Who was I supposed to bless? Was I supposed to make a list of those who had hurt me? I didn’t want to be reminded of that. I definitely wanted to rebel against God at this point, and slap her for bringing it up.

Here I sit at Panera on a Thursday evening, drowning my thoughts with carbs. I haven’t blessed anyone, and today’s task list has barely been touched. I’m thinking I’ve figured out the reason behind that. For the record, I have swallowed my pride and asked God to forgive me for being such a pain in His butt.

One task I did accomplish today, being real. I didn’t work on my Bible study this morning, I didn’t get half the things done I wanted to, and I didn’t work on the assignment God put on my heart. Does it get more real than that?

Tomorrow: Blessing someone who has hurt me. After that, figuring out where to go from there.

Faking It – Wisdom From John Townsend

Last night I attended a Solutions workshop at my church. My reason for going wasn’t what you would think. My boredom of sitting on the couch, watching the TV, and browsing Facebook became too much. Why not do something else? I didn’t expect to get the revelations I did.

Think about the last time you faked it. “What were you scared of?” Townsend asked.

“Perhaps you’re afraid you’ll let the other person down. Maybe you don’t want to be a downer.”

So, how often do we walk around telling people we’re okay, when in all reality we’re an absolute mess? How often do we fake it? I found myself flashing back to the past week of how many times people had asked me how  I was. Of course, with a smile, I replied “I’m ok, how are you?” Hmm. What a liar!

He tells us if we don’t come to to terms with how we really are inside, then we’ll never get better.

He says, “Here’s an idea: How about You and Real shake hands.” Wow!

Authenticity is being on the outside who you are on the inside. How many of us can truly say we’re authentic? Authentic people know what they wish for, are in touch with their needs, know what they feel, and they know their passions. If you have 100% of all four of these characteristics, then I want what you’re eating.

The purposes of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out.

Ways We Fake It

- Negation - Saying “I’m okay” with no negative feelings, no struggles.

We have a vacuum in our lives that keeps us from revealing our true struggles to people. We’re afraid they’ll                         say “Sorry you have problems, I’ll pray for you.” “Can I get you a psychiatrist?”

- Lack of Connection – Being detached, having the “as-if” personality.

This type of personality tends to learn love and not experience it. You learn how to hug others, you make eye contact, but you don’t feel anything.

Here’s the good news: You can become authentic, but it doesn’t happen overnight. You need support and the skills necessary to stop “faking it”.

First, we must understand that God designed us to be real. We must make the inside the same as the outside.

Secondly, we need to surround ourselves with a safe team. Ask someone to push you a little; to tell you when you’re not being real. We need others to provoke us, according to Hebrews 10:24.

Thirdly, ask for feedback. I must ask my accountability partner to let me know when I’m faking it. As others catch you not being real, you develop the capacity to catch yourself.

And last, allow yourself to need. What he pointed out is so true of me. I tend to keep a shell on of having things together out of fear. What am I scared of? Perhaps it’s peoples reactions, allowing myself to be vulnerable, or people thinking I’m half nuts! Don’t be terrified of having needs – it’s okay.

Remember this:

AUTHENTICITY – THE FIRST STEP OF EVERYTHING YOU’VE EVER WANTED IN LIFE.

Let’s be real together!

Life, Love, and Chicken Wings

It’s beautiful outside today. You can’t look around and tell that last night there were severe thunderstorm warnings on the news for Branson. I’m sitting out on the deck of my apartment enjoying the view. Wait a minute! What view? That apartment building directly across from me looks just the same as mine. I’ll enjoy the view of my neighbors instead.

I can smell the barbecue grills blazing. I see the kids on their skateboards. Here comes the neighbor in her Dodge Ram, bumper sticker filled truck.

Fifteen minutes ago I was sitting inside, crying on the  shoulder of a friend, wondering what my next step in life was going to be. These past two weeks have taken me on an emotional roller coaster, dealing with the “issues” of my life.  Now here I sit, enjoying a nice cold drink and “people watching.” It can get boring sitting here just watching, so I think I’ll make up stories of their lives. Yeah, good idea.

Let’s start with Bob. Bob’s sitting in the middle of the sidewalk in his green wicker chair watching his chicken wings grill. I must say, they’re smelling quite delicious. He’s enjoying being mellow in the sunshine, while his wife and children are inside preparing the rest of dinner. This is the first time his family has been together in weeks.

Bob just got out of the hospital. He went into cardiac arrest during a fishing trip with his brother. He died twice on the way to the hospital. He’s lucky to be alive. His wife has worked overtime at the restaurant trying to make up for the paycheck they’ve missed out on. Bob’s grateful though, as he blows bubbles on the sidewalk with his grand-daughter. Watch out Bob! I don’t think those wings should be on your diet so soon after heart surgery. Bob’s going to be just fine! He’s counting his blessings.

Then there’s Jim and Lucy. Those two have steaks on the grill every chance they get. They’ve got the lawn chairs pulled out, music on the car radio, and you can hear the sizzle on the grill. We smile and nod every time we see each other. What a nice couple. But Lucy has a broken heart. She just lost her job of 23 years as a janitor in a local manufacturing plant. What are they going to do? Jim doesn’t make enough for the both of them, and she doesn’t know anything else. Rent will soon be due.

The shape of the economy has come crashing down on them as well. Where can they go for help? They have no family. Good news arrives though via the local grocery ad. Sirloin steaks are on sale! It must be a sign of good things to come. Jim cheers the love of his life up by firing up the grill and treating her to their favorite delight. He dances with her to the beat of a love song, as the neighbors stare. He doesn’t care. Money can’t keep them apart.

Billy, the 12-year old extreme skateboarding hopeful, whizzes through the parking lot. He is so thankful for the sunshine – it keeps him out of the darkness he calls home. Billy’s got a black eye and bruises on his arm. His dad is fighting an addiction that has taken over him. He and his mom receive the consequences of that addiction.

Billy can’t think about normal things that 12-year old boys think about. He doesn’t think about video games, comic books, or girls. He thinks about taking his mom and running away. He dreams about freedom, but wakes up to tears from his mother. Things will change today though. Billy picks up his skateboard and throws it in the car as his mom puts her arms around him and kisses his forehead. Today they’re leaving – no more bruises, no more tears.

Lastly, there’s the girl in 205. She sits on the balcony, typing away on her laptop. Her dog sits by her side, sneaking sips of her drink. Almost four months ago she lost her dad. A month ago she lost her job. Lately, she’s been down both physically and emotionally. But for the moment she seems to be doing okay. She smiles and nods her head to confirm that things will get better.

She stares up to the sky and counts her blessings. She has friends that love her. She has a mama who has barely left her side. She’s got food on her table, and a roof over her head. She’s got a broken heart, but nothing that can’t be healed.

You know, I guess we’re all going to be okay. Bob’s eating his wings, laughing with his family. Jim and Lucy are dancing, taking a break from the troubles of this world. Billy’s holding his mama’s hand, giving her a reassuring smile. And me, I’m realizing that maybe I don’t have it all that bad.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the world – to forget about the many blessings we have already received. Life gets a little rocky, and we tend forget that we are not the captain of our own ship.  Let’s do it together – let’s count our blessings, not our troubles. Let’s smile even when our hearts break. Let’s dance to the car radio and not care who’s watching. Let’s enjoy the ride, like Billy does when he soars on his skateboard. Let’s munch on some chicken wings!

A Cardinal just landed on the rail of my balcony. A glimpse of this bird brings cheer, hope, and inspiration. Some say it’s nature’s way to remind us to focus on our faith. How is your focus today?

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